's, crooked congressmen and predatory lobbyists who rip off Indian tribes, a man who runs a squeaky-clean program within the dubious world of big-time college sports just might be worth listening to. Barry Svrluga: Coach Ks greatness was never his system. But the girls and I had to live up to it. West Point, all boys. And so I played that game with them: Still got the god---- Weeper, huh? LOOK: Unfamiliar photos of Mike Krzyzewski through the years In an era of rapacious C.E.O. And more basically: people no longer just do what they're told. ", One definition of leadership is, simply, the ability to give constructive criticism -- to demand better performance in a way that inspires rather than deflates. I wouldn't have recruited you if it wasn't."' Attracting top talent to Durham was not the slam dunk it is now. Shes worked at Duke since 2002, currently as an assistant athletics director for special events and director of the basketball programs Legacy Fund. With a Torch Passed and Destiny Denied, Mike Krzyzewski Rides Into the Sunset Coach K has seen many careers end over his four-plus decades of coaching. "Women tend to have more of a sensitivity to subliminal things," she says. That was the start of it., Mikula told OConnor that Knight was sitting in a corner table with several former Army coaches when Krzyzewski went over to him and got down on a knee just to see him eye to eye, and everyone else kind of continued their conversations. How has Coach K reached this point in his career, and whats next? Who is Mike Krzyzewski's wife Mickie? | The US Sun All rights reserved. In his mind, the other academies largely teach technical skills -- how to fly a fighter jet or sail an aircraft carrier -- but West Point, more than the others, teaches officers how to bond units together and lead them into battle. And off he went down a Superdome tunnel with a smile on his face, and with a smile on Mickies, after North Carolina shut down his bid for a sixth national title just as it had shut down his bid for a proper farewell in his last home game at Duke. It's a half-day of a weeklong program and is taught primarily by Krzyzewski's student managers. (His daughters, when they were younger, often went, too, but had to attest that their schoolwork was under control to be allowed to make the trip. Here they are prior to the Opening Ceremonies on July 25, 1992, at Estadi Olimpic de Montjuic in Barcelona, Spain. Coach K said a few words as their hands met; the losing coach seemed not to say much of anything at all. It was also important, Jamie says, for her young family to establish and protect boundaries, showing respect to Krzyzewski but not necessarily appeasing him. Long after they have given up their dreams of being sports stars, they can still hope to be what he is: the executive at the top of his game. Daughters Debbie and Lindy were born prior to Coach K coming to Duke while their But Frasher and Spatola have no idea what to get Krzyzewski for a retirement gift. By that time, I had been to combat. Steve Wiseman has covered Duke athletics since 2010 for the Durham Herald-Sun and Raleigh News & Observer. It shouldve died. Krzyzewski saw his players cry in the locker room Saturday night and actually called it a beautiful sight.. A few years ago, when a player was feeling sorry for himself, Krzyzewski ended practice and invited players, coaches and support staff to midcourt so everyone could have an actual pity party. She also has a masters degree from Pepperdine. One former Duke player, Mark Alarie, recalls that Krzyzewski ripped a picture of him off the locker-room wall after a game, a theatrical move that would seem unworthy of a bad Hollywood sports drama. Jamie and Chris shrugged because isnt a plant just a plant? NEW ORLEANS Mike Krzyzewski took his seat in the back of a golf cart next to his bride of 53 years, Mickie, the flight attendant he married the day he Having gotten married a decade prior, Mickie was able to see her husbands entire career unfold, standing by his side for some incredibly important moments. For starters, he coaches the way a woman would. For instance, the family will be able to celebrate Krzyzewskis birthday, which falls on Feb. 17 and therefore during the heart of the ACC schedule. Jamie imagines the scene, smiling as she pictures her dad walking outside one morning and discovering it still in its pot, situated in a prominent place in his manicured yard. This is The N&Os special report. Dennis Rodmans daughter Trinity signs the richest deal in NWSL history, 7 things you didnt know about Michael Jordans wife: Yvette Prieto. Hes an iconic figure, as we know, Chris says. "Remember that this was before the time that TV cameras showed the families in the stands as a point of interest. Then it was showtime. Here is a look at Mickie Krzyzewski, the wife of Duke men's basketball coach Mike Krzyzewski. But first, he wanted to phone Krzyzewski and let him know. The last ride for The Goat. Her dad coaches young men and happens to be an expert in manipulating their emotions. Not our rival: A Maryland fans farewell to Coach K, We gave him absolute hell, Lindy says. Between this father-in-law and son-in-law, it had been designated as an article of disharmony, as one familys symbol of the awkward, occasionally fraught, often silly power struggles that underpin the American in-law structure. Krzyzewski (Duke Athletics), The official team picture for Krzyzewski's first Duke squad, the 1980-81 Blue Devils. Is Krzyzewski smug? 's Los Angeles Lakers. They're not used to that. Eventually he started talking like old warriors talk. Dont you think? But its branches drooped, making it look a little like a forlorn Christmas tree. It was clear-cut. Krzyzewski said he felt intimidated by Jordan, who was not only a huge National Basketball Association star but had played for the University of North Carolina, Duke's archrival. (He was dressed in his Army "blues," a formal uniform he'd become eligible to wear only a few hours earlier, when he graduated as an officer.) And the woman on the far right is manager Liz Cozart. The house lights were up because he likes to find a few faces to focus on, "to make eye contact," he says. And because Krzyzewskis interests tend to become obsessions, he has befriended winemakers and restaurateurs, assembling a vast collection of bottles. And maybe leadership itself is not complicated but, rather, primal: one person's ability to reach another and persuade him to be part of a team, all pulling in some common direction. And soon to become, in marketing terms, "the Michael Jordan of college coaches," according to his agent, David Falk (who is, yes, Jordan's agent). A winning sports team might be inspired by a fire breather like Vince Lombardi, or a fatherly presence like Joe Torre, or a diffident intellectual type like Bill Belichick. He listens to stories about himself like this and howls, wiping tears, sniffing the laughter away. Krzyzewski is a tough man, obviously, as well as sort of a guy's guy, someone who knows how to use his iconic status as the coach of one of America's fabled sports programs to great effect. "You gotta go just like this," he said as he formed his right hand into a claw, then extended it toward me and rotated his wrist as if he were about to rip my chest open. The announcers praised Redick's deadeye shooting but seemed most impressed by his energy. The New York Times And coaches do, of course, take lots of trips. Mickie Krzyzewski Photos and Premium High Res Here he is in 2006, while coaching Team USA Basketball. Duke players also tend to be better students than most National Collegiate Athletic Association basketball players at major programs and -- though it is difficult to generalize about such things -- more likely to come from stable, middle-class backgrounds. Also in the photo, at left, is Jerry Colangelo, and that's Nate McMillan just at left of Krzyzewski. How do you find your place in that world where you also want to be respected?. Of all Krzyzewski's Duke players, only two have stayed the full four years and failed to graduate, a remarkable record in an era when some other elite programs routinely graduate fewer than half their players. He has also raised funds for the "K Lab" (officially, the Michael W. Krzyzewski Human Performance Research Laboratory at Duke Medical Center), a research center for the prevention of athletic injuries. ", Mickie Krzyzewski was raised in Alexandria, Va., and attended a small Southern Baptist college, but left before graduating. The first three won a combined 38 games, against 47 losses. The books don't straight out tell male executives to be more like women, but that message is clear. You could certainly break a kid like that by giving him more than he could handle, but it would not be easy. ", The plowing and replowing of emotional terrain inside the Krzyzewski household is the sort of thing that might make some men thankful for the occasional out-of-town business trip. It was that bad.. "So when I teach those things, I'm able to start at a different level.". How do you take a group of people like that and say, 'Some of you are actually better than others? In the midst of a dreary 1982-83 season (11-17, with a 3-11 record in the A.C.C. Thanks for contacting us. "There's an empathetic part of leadership, and this is where my wife and my daughters have had a huge impact on me," Krzyzewski says. Its anonymous author makes the impossible-to-prove charge that even within the foulmouthed fraternity of college basketball coaches, Krzyzewski's language on the sideline is more profane than most. (As at most N.C.A.A. (USATSI), Finally, Krzyzewski in 2014, embracing Jabari Parker. I have never cheered for Duke harder.. Steve and Lindy Frasher have three children: Sons Quin Frasher (age 15), Remington Frasher (age 12) and Caden Frasher (age 8). She rolled her eyes sometimes, but she also understood her dad. That may sound trite or unimportant, and Redick's comments are of the type that could easily fire the imaginations of anti-Duke partisans who already like to taunt Duke players as soft preppie types. "I was thinking, How can this guy be so dumb?". "Absolutely," Frasher says. The grandkids give Poppy whoopee cushions or a broomstick horse from the dollar store. You need to send a strong message, plant-wise, when people come up to your home, Chris remembers him saying, an extremely Coach K way to think about such a thing. "I had coaches in the pros say things to me that were not that different from what I heard from Coach Krzyzewski," he says. Nobody stays lucky for a quarter-century. I apologized to my teammates, and I made some changes in my life.". You're talking about issues of the heart, and yet somehow that's likened to a man-to-man or zone defense. His wife has poured her considerable energy and intellect into his career. Why is Coach K retiring? Duke legend cites family, COVID in Krzyzewski Knight is the most obvious influence on Krzyzewski's career and coaching methods, but by no means the most important; his wife has long been that. Leadership is such an intangible quality, but it's really clear when you see it. Ill scout the other teams. Mickie was born on September 26, 1946 in Alexandria, Virginia. If money is your only passion, good luck and God love you.". He added: "All decisions are not bottom-line financial decisions. Follow IndyStar trending sports reporterMatthew VanTryon on Twitter @MVanTryon and email him story ideas at matthew.vantryon@indystar.com. No more pep talks to give. That jocular one-two punch of ridicule and praise is a distinctly male thing and something that most women would not attempt; Krzyzewski, a master of the form, pulled it off with aplomb. This, apparently, extended to disagreements about conifers. Krzyzewski is under contract to work as an ambassador for the school. Scheyer has a young daughter, too, and Krzyzewski seems to feel a tinge of envy that his understudy has so many experiences ahead. Krzyzewski Hes a multimillionaire who gets whatever he wants, and hes such a challenge to shop for that Lindys Christmas gift to her dad is usually delivering pots of Italian wedding or chicken and wild rice soup because it soothes his throat after so much screaming. And sure enough, I'll take him aside, and there is. So Krzyzewski sends his sons-in-law into his massive wine cellar to select another bottle or two. (Duke Athletics), It's 1987, and this is former Duke star/current Harvard coach Tommy Amaker celebrating a win with Krzyzewski. Lindy graduated from Wake Forest in 1999 with a psychology degree with minors in Spanish and theater. Jamie and Chris walked outside to greet them. He is the golden boy taken to a ridiculous extreme. We're all about the end of the story, the punch line. What are we going to bring, something that we picked up at Harris Teeter?. "I might stink a little bit." Krzyzewski will leave the program in assistant coach Jon Scheyers hands, and though the two of them have talked plenty about hoops and leadership and character, they sometimes discuss parenting. And (Knight) barely even hesitated and continued with his story, that kind of thing. Krzyzewski can be goofy, doubling over in laughter when Frasher makes an easy joke about, say, a blowfish. His older brother, Bill (his only sibling), went into the city's fire department and retired after attaining the rank of captain. Mike and Mickie Krzyzewski celebrated their 52nd wedding anniversary this year. Frasher told him sharing a first name should make him easy to remember. Chris already spoke two of Krzyzewskis languages: those of basketball and West Point. "He told us freshmen to stop playing passive and to play with an attacking style," Greg Paulus, a first-year point guard, told me. I wasn't going to sleep. Well, anyone who wants to beat you -- and then sell you the book on how it was done -- can be accused of that. Mike Krzyzewski, former head coach of the Duke Blue Devils, and his wife Mickie watch the Notre Dame game at Cameron Indoor Stadium on Feb. 14, 2023, in Durham, North Carolina. Rival fans quite understandably view the parade of elite talent that flocks to Duke as a tremendous advantage, which, of course, it is. Met Her Husband Mike At Work. This is why nearly anyone who has been successful can go out on the road as a leadership expert or write one of the dozens of books that are published on the subject each year. Tipsy K can be sentimental and reminiscent, family members say, and these are sides of himself he rarely shows the public. "Mike's ability to take risks has helped him, and it was risky, at the time, to include us like he did," she says. And Im sure thats the thing when Ill look back that Ill miss. Krzyzewski's toughness and his wisecracking, just-one-of-the-boys manner are certainly part of his leadership style. But I got the strong sense that for Krzyzewski, these relationships are part of his questing nature: he has things he wants to learn, and he figures they know some of them. Krzyzewski believes that even a practice should have a certain sound, by which he means he should hear his players communicating back and forth constantly. He laughed and, somewhat to my relief, agreed. He has been married to his wife for more than forty years. He was told to swim anyway, and promptly sank and had to be pulled from the water. They're at the Yongsan Army Base Seoul, South Korea. If the right mood hits, Coach might disappear into the kitchen to fetch a spoon, then return to serenade Mickie and everyone else by singing Smokey Robinsons Ooh Baby Baby into his silver microphone. He thinks about everything he does -- how he presents himself is central to how he leads -- so the accent is probably something he did not want to lose and may even at times accentuate. But there are upsides to the change, Lindy says. Krzyzewski's teams turn a yearly profit for Duke. Over all, he has coached 19 high school all-Americans and seven national college players of the year. He spent the next year taking a three-times-a-week remedial swim class with about 30 other city kids. Thatll mean more gatherings and louder songs and gifts to give, but that raises one more question. Having arrived in Durham with two young daughters in March 1980, Mike and Mickie Krzyzewskis family grew to include another daughter and now 10 grandchildren during Mike Krzyzewskis 42 seasons as Dukes mens basketball coach. Mike Krzyzewski refers to himself, Mickie and their three daughters as the starting five. CBS Sports is a registered trademark of CBS Broadcasting Inc. Commissioner.com is a registered trademark of CBS Interactive Inc. site: media | arena: collegebasketball | pageType: stories | In early December I watched Duke's showdown with Texas on TV, a pairing of what were then the two top-ranked teams in the nation. So, three national championships and 10 Final Four appearances, all achieved with his usual roster of clean-cut all-Americans, and now this: the high priest of Blue Devils basketball as corporate icon. He is set to succeed Coach K as Duke head coach starting in the 2022-23 season. Spending more time with his grandchildren. Mike Krzyzewski was, now, to his admirers, his corporate acolytes and -- well, O.K., probably not to the author of the anti-Duke manifesto -- ever more worthy of admiration. 2 man in the Duke athletic department, went in to see his boss. Each year Krzyzewski hosts a wine auction in Napa Valley named after former North Carolina State Coach Jim Valvano, and since 1999 the event has raised more than $130 million for the V Foundation for Cancer Research. And let's deal with that honestly, in a way that does not demean some or inflate the egos of others, and design a system that allows everyone to use their talents well. The two of them have been together ever since. Krzyzewski finds the exchange hilarious. Sixty-three years later, its all over. I've got four seniors and this is their last year, and they want to win now. He was also Chriss boss. (NBAE via Getty Images), Beloved Maui Invitational photoshoot in 2011. As a former participant at Dukes basketball camp who has known Jamie since they were teenagers, Chris has been in the Krzyzewski orbit for years. "We get a lot of low- and no-maintenance guys," he says. Thats it., It never came up again with family. Coach K sees destiny denied as Duke loss sends him to He was given permission. He had been in the water before -- Lake Michigan -- but only up to his waist. In her earlier life, she was an airline stewardess, which led to her meeting her future husband on a flight. But damn, I was in the arena for a long time. https://www.nytimes.com/2006/02/05/magazine/follow-me.html. Here he is in 2005 -- in a home game vs. UNC -- smacking the hardwood with renowned floor-slapping former Duke assistant/player Steve Wojciechowski. So happy this photo exists. ), Charlotte Observer and Hickory (NC) Daily Record covering beats including the NFLs Carolina Panthers and New Orleans Saints, University of South Carolina athletics and the S.C. General Assembly. ("Joe Torre's Ground Rules for Winners," Rick Pitino's "Lead to Succeed," Pat Croce's "Lead or Get Off the Pot!," Donald T. Phillips's "Lincoln on Leadership.") I try to dismiss her, but I'm thinking, There's probably something bothering him. The speaker must be a person of high achievement but, ideally, not so lofty in manner that no one can connect with him. Chapter 2: Building Your Team, From "Leading With The Heart: Coach K's Successful Strategies For Basketball, Business, And Life", (2000), By Mike Krzyzewski, With Donald T. Phillips. She actually went as far as to give her husband an ultimatumif he wanted to come home on what would prove to be his final day of coaching that season, he needed to skip practice and go to the doctor. "I didn't think of basketball coaches as mental giants." Meet Duke coach Mike Krzyzewskis wife Carol Mickie Krzyzewski likes to call West Point "the greatest leadership school in the world." It was not a hard thing for him to agree to because he did not believe, even then, that there was something sanctified about the all-male atmosphere of a men's college team. "I need different motivations beyond: I'm going to score more points than you," he says to me at one point. He will grimace, of course, and promise to plant it, right next to where the familys new puppy uses the bathroom. Mike Krzyzewski's wife, Mickie Krzyzewski: career, net (Photo via Jim Oxley), Early days of love for young Mickie and Mike Krzyzewski. 's wanting to rub up against a sports figure. A battle for respect, Chris Spatola says. The packaging of Krzyzewski's methods as a business school product is mostly Sitkin's doing. Who pays for dinner when youre out with Coach K? Knight was being honored by his former Army players in Pinehurst, North Carolina. Because guys can be dirtbags.. Of course, he hopes that isn't the case. "I was a mathematician,$(2$) Douglas Breeden, dean of the Fuqua School of Business, says. Every night at the dinner table, my wife and girls discussed their day. Photos: Coach K's legendary career | CNN They were future C.E.O. Grant Hill, who came to Duke a decade into Krzyzewski's reign, told me: "He's extremely persuasive. Krzyzewski calls his three daughters his best friends and is confident in the instincts that made him wildly successful in the four-plus decades he led Duke before Paradoxically, turning down those millions was also an enhancement to the selling of Mike Krzyzewski, a way for him to become a bigger off-court presence. The indifference grew into a more impassioned, We put that thing in the ground; were planting our roots here, she says. Before the national semifinal game tipped off, OConnor says Knight handed Duke special assistant Colonel Tom Rogers an envelope, and asked him to give it to Krzyzewski. "', That's not something a lot of coaches would heap on young players. Duke basketball showed interest, but former Virginia center is transferring elsewhere, Duke football closes spring practice with an eye on Clemson, and a tough ACC slate, The crazy good moment that fostered Coach Ks approach to his final Duke team, Who are the starting five? Meet Coach Ks family and support system. Hes from Ohio, grew up wrestling and playing football, had never watched the Blue Devils. "But it didn't feel motivational. According to reports from The Wall Street Journal, Mickie was the only person who could persuade him to stand down during the 199495 season, when he suffered a back injury. ACC Now Podcast: How many ACC players will go in the NFL Draft first round? He said he likes to "belch after eating Polish sausage, because for a Polack that's like reliving a great experience.". (Getty Images), It's Coach K in fatigues -- well after his West point years. The ability to do so is based on the underlying relationship as much as on the actual spoken words. Mickie Krzyzewski Young Photos: How Old Is Mike Jamie earned her English degree from Duke in 2004 where she also minored in Linguistics. Beyond Krzyzewskis professional stature, Chris had to negotiate anxieties common for any son-in-law. The friendships can, on the one hand, be viewed as rich, successful guys wanting to hang out with each other -- and C.E.O. One of the lessons is that the best shooter does not always get to take the shot; sometimes he has to pass the ball or set a screen. Krzyzewski nearly left Duke in 2004. David Beckham meets Lionel Messi in France amid Inter Miami transfer speculation, Rafael Nadal pulls out of Monte Carlo, still not prepared to compete, Kamilla Cardoso: The college basketball players height and more, Jaime and Gabriela Jaquez make March Madness history, Beau Casper Smart talks about Metaverse dancing and the time he met Bad Bunny, Gerard Piqu arrives in Miami and more estrellas we love, Ana de Armas surprises a fan in a restaurant in Cuba, Kim Kardashian breaks down in tears talking about Kanye Wests lies. But family gatherings sometimes qualify, and though Spatola and Frasher have learned the ways of the fermented grape, they still struggle with the deeper function of this exercise. Whats next for Mike Krzyzewski after Duke?
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